The side door

For Them.

For the people who are not in menopause in any way, but are attached to someone who is.

Them, for our purposes, means anyone not currently in menopause but attached to someone who is, and who would prefer not to be exited from the relationship by a single poorly timed question. That's the whole eligibility requirement. It's on the door. It's also the password to a place of curious understanding.

The side door is for men first, because they knocked. But it doesn't check ID. If you are a partner of any description, a grown child, a sister who is inexplicably still ten years behind, or a very close friend who has been on the receiving end of a text that just said no, you're one of Them. Come in.

Read the whole story: We Built a Side Door. It's for Them.

Man-o-Pause

For the men who love women going through menopause. (No, not that one.)

You don't need to fix her. You could probably use a map.

What's coming

Chris DiMarco will be posting here. First piece coming soon.

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What is not changing

The women's conversations stay women-only. Some things belong exclusively to women, and they will keep belonging there. Nobody is going to discuss vaginal dryness while wondering whether somebody's husband is three chairs over pretending to read a pamphlet.

What we're doing is making room for the people who love us, without taking the room away from women. That isn't a change to By Women, For Women. It's what the second half of the sentence was for.

The side door

Tell me when the first piece goes up.

Email only. No questions about anyone's symptoms, health, or house. Just a note when Man-o-Pause opens.

No spam, ever. No products pushed at you. And no reporting back to anyone's kitchen.

For Them, so far

From The Change Log

We Built a Side Door. It's for Them.

Sofrena is adding a section for the people attached to someone in menopause. Man-o-Pause is the first thing behind the side door.

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I Love You. I Want to Help. I Have Absolutely No Idea What to Do.

A field guide for partners in the eggshell years — on asking before fixing, not blaming everything on menopause, and the two words that matter most.

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